This community was established as the result of a successful livejournal post.
Only open minded people may post here.
Here are the instructions:
Post anything that you want, and post it anonymously. A story, a secret, a confession, a fear, a love... anything. Make sure to post anonymously and honestly. Post as many times as you'd like. I've turned off the option of logging IP addresses, so no one has any way of knowing who you are.
Alright. I am LOVING this new reply thing that LJ has. Do you know which one I mean? Or is it just some kind of screw-up thats been happening to me? Ah, well. I have an idea on how to sort out our problem. Someone, any one of us, can post something each day. Like...a question mark, or something. It doesn't matter. Then we can all "reply" anonymously.
Nonono...are you insane? Of course I have my LJ comments emailed to me! There's no other way to go. *rolls eyes* I meant that when I hit the reply button instead of LJ taking me to a new window, it just creates a small one under the comment im trying to reply to. Its cool.
I'm newly divorced (well almost) and this "getting back out there thing" is scaring the hell outta me. I've had quite a few "nibbles", but no one I'm really interested in. Think that I'm scared to get hurt. But, I'm only 31 and determined not to live out the remainder of my young adult years scared and alone. Have recently discovered that I'm not a huge fan of casual sex- sex is soooo much better when there is love involved. So, do I abstain and wait for love? Not likely, a girl's got her needs!
Don't know if you're ever going to plop back onto my page, but I'm going to respond anyway...
I can only imagine how difficult it would be to have to "get back out there", as you say. I was having a conversation with a friend who's been married for 6 years how he has no idea how to "court" anymore.
Fear of gettign hurt is inevitable in your position. Don't try to force it away; immerse yourself in situations which challenge that fear and see how much good there is from taking risks.
but, all you can do is "go with the flow". Abstinence isn't totally necessar. Just remember that when you develop the right relationship, casual sex will feel- different. Just make sure you don't fall for someone who only wants that casual sex...
Thanks for the encouraging words. I'm in a unique position, cuz I met my husband (and stopped dating) at the ripe old age of 16. So, this is all very very new to me. I've decided to put myself put there through an online matching service- will see how that goes. I'm excited at the possibilities- I am about to grow in ways that I never thought possible.
Online matching service sounds fun, and you obviously have a terrific attitude towards it; I like that you say you're going to grow. Its true, and its great that you think of it that way.
I'm so used to being with hundreds of people everyday at school, so I can't imagine how hard it must be to try to meet someone once school is out of the picture.
But anyway I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, although congratulations on having the courage to do it. Too many people are in unhealthy and unhappy relationships and are too insecure to end it. kudos, and good luck with everything!